The Last Song

So another movie I got for my birthday was The Last Song.  I wasn't too sure about this movie at first because I wasn't sure about Miley Cyrus being in it, but it was one of the best movies I have seen in a while.  It also has to be the saddest movie I have EVER seen.  I have never cried so much at a movie.  Again I say major spoiler alert on this one.  Don't read until you have seen it!!!!

Okay so a little background on me first to understand why this movie touched me so much.  About 6 years ago now my uncle died of cancer.  He was my hero and my favorite person/family member.  He and my aunt always babysat me when I was little.  He would always take me around in the woods and teach me things and let me help with the yard work (my favorite was to ride in the trailer behind the lawn mower).  I would follow him around EVERYWHERE, which looking back on it most people would get frustrated or annoyed...but he didn't care!  I was definitely his shadow.  As I got older my sister and I were in sports and dance and he made it to pretty much every game and recital.  Even when he was going through chemo he made it to my sister's softball games.

He was also one of the most compassionate people I know.  He didn't have anything bad to say about to anybody (well maybe some bad refs or umps here and there).  And he was always cheering me up when I was down.  If we lost a basketball game it was the usually response "Whatcha gonna do?!".  He was just a sweet and caring person and would do anything for anyone.  And he would never let it show when the chemo was getting to him.  He was so strong.

Then came the dreadful night when we got a phone call and found out he was in the hospital.  We rushed to the hospital and the sight I saw will never leave my mind.  He was laying in bed with a breathing mask and wasn't wearing his usually Nike hat.  He looked so weak and fragile I instantly broke down.  After I composed myself I went and sat by him for a while and held his hand.  I talked to him for a little bit and he was somewhat aware of what was going on and that we were there but he didn't talk.  I was holding his hand and didn't really know if he knew I was there and then he took his thumb and rubbed it on the back of my hand a few times.  I knew then that he knew I was there and I was glad.  We were there with him all day long.  We napped...tried to keep the little cousins (his grandkids) busy with stuff and we waited.  People came and went to see him and to pretty much say goodbye.  I reluctantly went home with my parents that night thinking I would be coming back to be with him.  I woke up the next morning and found out he had passed overnight.  I never got to say my goodbye.

So, The Last Song really hit me when the audience finds out that Ronnie's dad has cancer.  The end of the movie is Ronnie staying with her dad and helping him out as he gets worse and worse and eventually dies.  This was soooo hard for me to watch because I did the same thing.  I remember first hearing that my uncle had a tumor...and then it progressing to cancer...and then seeing him deteriorate right before my eyes and then eventually losing him.  It may have been 6 years ago, but I remember it all like it was yesterday. 

I also commend Miley Cyrus on her performance.  She did an amazing job on showing the right emotions and really bringing the audience in making them feel what she is feeling and what people in those situations feel.  It might be a sad movie, but it is a great movie!

Me and My uncle

I would never wish upon anyone that they have to deal with a loved one going through cancer.  It is sad, and hard, and very emotional.  It took me a long time to bounce back from it all and it is still hard on me.  I really recommend this movie to anyone! To anyone out there fighting cancer stay strong; Livestrong!!

I love you Uncle Kenny and I miss you!!

TTFN!!

Dear John

So, my birthday was last week and one of my presents was the movie Dear John, which I love.  I actually read the book first.  The movie is very different from the book; it doesn't even have the same ending.  Spoiler alert: if you haven't seen it yet I wouldn't read this til you have.
Dear John is a sotry about long distance love and the army.  Even though I have no experience with having a significant other in the armed forces, I have a lot of experience with long distance relationships.  This movie shows how difficult long distance can be and that eventually as time goes on you need to stop and figure out if you can continue in such a relationship.

It seems like every relationship that I have ever been involved in has been long distance, but varying in some way.  They have ranged from a few hours, to long distance just during the week, to way across the country (this is the most recent one =) .

Sometimes long distance is so hard because some days all you can do is think about the other person and how much you miss them; it consumes your whole day and you are down in the dumps.  I would be lying if I say I don't think sometimes it would be easier to not do it. 

Every now and then it just gets so difficult that you feel it would be simpler to end it, but then you remember how much you love the other person and the reason you are fighting to stay together.  It takes all you have to get through the time apart until you are finally able to be together for good.  It can definitely turn you into a very strong person.

One other thing that this movie brings up that I believe in is that everything happens for a reason and what is meant to be will always find its way in the end.  In the movie they break up, and go their separate ways, but in the end they find their way back to each other because they were meant to be together.  They went through a lot to get there together.  I just think that I'll let whatever happens happen and what is meant to happen to me will happen!!  Until then I will just hang on through the distance.

TTFN!!